So, if you haven’t picked this up, then let me tell you that my four-year-old daughter is a force.
She said to me, “Mom, on Valentine’s Day can you say ‘yes’ to everything?”
“Ha, no, sweetie,” I said.
“I’m not a good Mom if I say yes to everything.”
“Well, you gotta learn how to handle ‘no’,” I said.
“Because you’re going to hear ‘no’ in life at some point or another.”
“No, I’m not,” she said.
This is very indicative of who she is. And I find myself wondering if it’s indicative of who she will be. She said it so firmly I actually wondered if she were right. I mean, life might say “no”, but if history is any indicator, she won’t hear the word. Ha ha.
For example, two days ago I noticed her standing in the middle of the floor on her favorite princess storybook, the binding of which is dangerously close to giving up the long hard work of keeping the pages together.
So, I said, “Honey, step off the book before you break it.”
“But I want to break it.”
“Oh, you don’t want it anymore?”
“No,” she said.
“Alright, we’ll give it to another little girl who wants it,” I said.
“Great, put it by the front door on the bench so I can take it out.”
A moment later, “Mom, I put the book on the bench for you.”
All of this makes her a difficult four-year-old. And, yet, all of this is going to make her an extraordinary adult.
Hear me, Mommas! There is an upside to having a strong-willed child! I’ll let you know what it is when I get there!
So, this evening, I’m clinging to the big picture. There’s an end game out there and, meantime, in my current moment there’s chocolate ice cream and a cocktail. So, we’re good.